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July 3, 2004

2 White People, A Black Baby & The Negro

Yesterday, I had lunch with some friends who are visiting from Cali. We went to Timothy's on the Riverfront. My friends are white, and they just adopted a black baby back in December. The baby is now 6 months, and she is just a doll. What's funny is that while we were out, people thought that the baby belonged to me. Why? Well...because I'm black and my friends are white.

My white friend & his wife were kissing & hugging all over the baby, and The Blacks were staring like "Why is she lettin those white folks touch her baby like that?" The Whites were staring like, "Which one is the mother?" It was so funny. We were at the table having a good time laughing at the stares we got.

A waitress walked over to our table, looked at me & said, "Your baby is so cute. How old is she?" I said, "Umm...." The baby's mother says, "She's 6 months." The waitress looked at me & said, "Ohhh how cute..." I wanted to die laughing. I really got a kick out of that.

Is it really that hard to grasp the idea of trans-racial adoption? White people adopt black children. And though it's not quite as common as the latter, black people adopt white children as well. Children need love that transcends the color boundaries. I have respect for ANYONE that would adopt & love a child as his own.

I understand the pros of the issue

  • God is not a respecter of persons. He places children in families without regard to race or culture.
  • Adoption is better than being a ward of the state
  • ADA writes, "...It is unjust and destructive to deny a child a loving adoptive home only because the prospective adoptive parents are a different race from the child. Evidence from studies indicates that trans-racial adoptees do as well on various measures of psychological and social adjustments as children raised by same race parents in socio-economic circumstances that are similar"
I understand the cons of the issue
  • We must protect the identity of black children, because one day they grow up seeking to know about their history
  • Black children should be adopted by black families
But the end result is love right? Love sees no color right? Sometimes I look at Adoption Stories on the Discovery Health Channel and I cry. It warms my heart to see the lengths that some people will go to to adopt a child. It takes an incredible person to welcome a child into his life with unconditional love.

Afterall, how could you not look at this baby and just melt?

Posted by Timi at July 3, 2004 1:10 AM